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There’s always something about wedding etiquette that gets people fired up. If it’s not the guests wearing white, it’s banning children from attending, or even worse… having to pay for your own drinks!
Now, people online are debating whether you actually NEED to give the bride and groom a wedding gift when attending their big day.
TikTok creator Alizé Ruiz (aka @alizeruiz_) created a stir on the social media platform after sharing a comical clip of her poking fun at what she received at her recent wedding.
“When we had 120 people at our wedding and we only received 12 cards and 4 gifts,” she captioned the video.
“And before y’all come for me, I’m not even saying it had to be money, but just a card with a cute message or prayer! Idk I wouldn’t show up to a wedding empty-handed,” she added.
People don’t understand basic wedding etiquette
The video has been viewed over 1.6 million times, with many chiming in to share their thoughts.
First up were those who agreed with the bride and insisted it was plain rude to attend an event such as a wedding without a gift to wish the newlyweds well.
“I feel like our generation doesn’t know common courtesy anymore. Anytime someone invites you anywhere, you bring something PERIOD,” someone commented.
“I would die of embarrassment if I didn’t bring a gift to a wedding,” another wrote.
Another shocked follower added: “Bro it’s a wedding. At least a card, bottle of wine or whatever and $100 bill or something. Damn” and someone else agreed that the unspoken amount to give is “minimum $100.”
Some people were fuming over the fact that some people have lost all touch with common courtesy.
“NO ONE HAS ETIQUETTE ANYMORE!!” someone ranted.
And it wasn’t just about the gifts: “No one knows wedding etiquette. starting with the RSVP.”
You don’t owe the bride and groom anything
Surprisingly, along with those who agreed with the bride, there were also plenty of people who chimed in on the conversation, defending people who don’t bring gifts.
“You mean 120 people took time out of their lives to celebrate your special day?” someone questioned sarcastically.
“You invited them for their presence and they came..” another suggested.
Someone else insisted that “weddings are celebrations, not gift extortion events,” and another insisted, “People don’t owe you anything because you guys decided to get married.”
How much should you give at a wedding?
For those who strongly believe giving a present is the right thing to do (um, because it is!) but are wondering what an acceptable amount is, many support the suggestion of at least $100 or at least enough to cover what it costs the married couple to have you there.
When Vogue asked the question to wedding website Zola, they broke it down perfectly.
“The average person spends $150 on a wedding gift. We suggest the following breakdown: coworkers or distant relatives should spend $50 to $100. Friends or relatives, $100 to $150. For close friends, family members, or if you’re in the wedding party, you should spend $150 dollars or more,” they said.
“If everything left on the registry is over your budget, it’s a good idea to get the couple a gift card to one of the stores where they registered.”
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