Meghan Markle Details How She Learned to ‘Detach’ After 2020 Miscarriage

Meghan Markle is opening up about the miscarriage she suffered in 2020.

On a Tuesday, April 15, episode of her podcast “Confessions of a Female Founder,” Meghan, 43, brought up her own experience with pregnancy loss after guest Reshma Saujani detailed going through multiple miscarriages and taking a step back from her business, Girls Who Code.

“I think in some parallel way … you have to learn to detach from the thing that you have so much promise and hope for and to be able to be OK at a certain point to let something go, something go that you plan to love for a long time,” Meghan explained to Saujani, 49.

Saujani went on to praise Meghan’s “really insightful” comment and joked that she could have been “reading [her] diaries.”

“I don’t think anyone’s seen it that way [or], like, said it that way for me,” Saujani added.

In a heartbreaking op-ed in November 2020, Meghan opened up about suffering a miscarriage with husband Prince Harry. (The couple, who wed in 2018, share Prince Archie, 5, and Princess Lilibet, 3.)

“After changing [Archie’s] diaper, I felt a sharp cramp,” Meghan recalled in her New York Times essay. “I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right. I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”

Meghan went on to write that she remembered laying in a hospital bed while holding Harry’s hand.

“I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears,” she shared. “Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.”

Nearly two years after revealing her miscarriage, Meghan and Harry got candid about their decision to share the tragic news with the public.

“When I reveal things that are moments of vulnerability when it comes to having a miscarriage and maybe having felt ashamed about that, like, ‘It’s OK, you’re human. It’s OK to talk about that,’” Meghan explained in a December 2022 episode of her and Harry’s Netflix docuseries. “And I could make the choice to never talk about those things or I could make the choice to say, ‘With all the bad that comes with this, the good is being able to help other people.’ That’s the point of life, right? It’s connection and community.”

Later in the docuseries, Harry mentioned that he believed Meghan’s miscarriage was caused in some part by the stress associated with her lawsuit against the U.K.’s Mail on Sunday when they published her private letter to her father, Thomas Markle. (The trial concluded in Meghan’s favor in January 2022, with Meghan receiving £1 as compensation from the newspaper.)

“Now, do we absolutely know that the miscarriage was created [or] caused by that?” Harry shared in an episode. “Course we don’t, but bearing in mind the stress that that caused, the lack of sleep and the timing of the pregnancy [and] how many weeks in she was, I can say, from what I saw, that miscarriage was created by what they were trying to do to her.”