For Bernie Sinclaire, coparenting three little kids in the Big Apple is like a dream — mostly because she’s raising tots with another mom instead of an annoying man.
The city gal’s “mommune,” a living arrangement in which single mothers split the bills and burdens of bringing up babies, is a “Barbie Dream House”-esque haven where she and her two sons live in pinkish harmony with mom Anabelle Gonzalez and her young daughter.
It’s a fairytale life with “No Prince Charming required,” say Sinclaire and Gonzalez, two in the rising army of solo mamas parenting together rather than going it alone.
“Me and my best friend are two single moms, we live in New York City and we’re raising our kids under one roof,” explained Sinclaire, 38, in a viral Instagram vid.
She and Gonzalez, 39, both teachers at an all-girls’ school in the Bronx, agreed to cohabitate and coparent roughly two years ago, following their respective breakups with ex-partners.
The besties now reportedly reside in a three-bedroom, two-bathroom, 1,200 sq ft apartment a block from the Hudson River in Manhattan’s swanky Hamilton Heights. The building includes a gym, a playroom and laundry facilities. And their children, all under age 10, happily coexist in a pseudo-siblings bubble they call the “kidsune.”
Sinclaire and Gonzalez did not immediately respond to The Post’s request for a comment.
“We decided, since this working so well for us…that this wasn’t going to be something temporary,” Sinclaire continued in the clip. “We upgraded our apartment to fit our family, and we are building it out to be long-lasting.”
“This isn’t something temporary. It’s not that we’re waiting to find a boyfriend or a man or a traditional family,” she added. “This is the kind of lifestyle that works for us — a women-centered lifestyle.”
It’s the mother of all setups.
With the cost of living at an alarming high, and the prospect of finding a forever romance at a depressing low, moms like Sinclaire and Gonzalez are creating ladies-only live-in communities from coast-to-coast.
In fact, there are upwards of 10.9 million one-parent families with a child under the age of 18, according to the US Census Bureau, which noted that 80% of those one-parent families were maintained by a mother.
As the financial commitment for raising a child in the US has reached a startling $300,000, per recent reports, joining forces and pooling resources has served as a lifesaving hack for singletons with kids.
Kristin Batykefer and Tessa Gilder, of Jacksonville, Florida, built a mommune shortly after the pandemic, compounded by their individual divorces, in the early 2020s. The twosome has famously boasted about the benefits of shacking up and teaming up online, bragging “Life. Is. Good. Baby!,” in a recent post.
Shannon and Cheyanne, best friends and coparents based in Nevada, too, attested to the goodness of going through life with another mother on their own social media account last year.
“Life is easier with a village,” Shannon captioned a TikTok snippet, which garnered over 9.5 million views.
“We both very much like men,” she insisted of her and Cheyanne’s sexualities, “but two women splitting [the] house and kids [and] chores has proven easier than with men.”
Sinclaire and Gonzalez echoed similar sentiments across the internet.
“Less work. More ‘me’ time. More joy. No default parent,” the platonic pals listed as their top four perks of becoming partners in parenthood. “Living motherhood dream. No Prince Charming required.”
Still, digital detractors often denigrate their seemingly idyllic, girl-powered lifestyle, leaving comments like “I hope you don’t have boys… god help them.”
A separate cyber critic wrote, in part, “Seems like a bunch of women who’ve been hurt before and instead of moving forward they adopted this new culture of hating men as if we’re all oppressing females…Adults thinking this way is sad.”
But rather than “sad,” Sinclaire says she and Gonzalez are glad to have one another for support.
“Society tells us that if we want to be single mothers, we better be really rich or be prepared to be really broke at the mercy of child support payments, crippling childcare expenses and having to take out our own garbage to boot,” she said in an Instagram testimonial. “But we said ‘No.’ We said ‘Matriarchy.’”
“We said we’ll keep the single motherhood and the dual income. We said we’ll ease household labor with sisterhood. We said we’ll center our kids by putting our own needs on the table too,” she continued. “Sometimes the weight of motherhood still sneaks up on us, but we always have the space to tend to it, fold it and put it in its place.”
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